In my previous blog about self-reflection I suggested keeping 3 lists over 7 days: What’s working well What’s not working so well What’s not working at all 1 What’s working well As you read through this list make a note of your personal strengths that you have drawn on which have contributed to the things […]
I recently had to write a self-reflective essay on a course I am taking and it helped me realise that it was a very long time since I had reflected about myself and my life. Like most people I always seem to be caught up in the day-to-day demands and challenges of life. Reflection allows […]
Our self-talk is probably one of the most important factors in our happiness and success – but it can also undermine the even the most talented and likeable people if they are unaware of their self-talk or fail to understand its significance. The reason why it is so important is because of the cycle it […]
2019 Happy New Year ! So here we are again at the start of another new year wondering if we will reach our goals. In our enthusiasm to make positive changes it can be easy to overlook the fact that any change involves a process; change is rarely an event. All success, whether […]
Over the years I have seen many clients with social anxiety and have witnessed how miserable it has made them. Social anxiety is an intense fear of being negatively judged or even rejected by others. Suffers often cope by avoiding certain situations, sometimes for years and yet whilst any avoidance strategy may bring relief, […]
Black Friday is here again with the temptation of huge discounts on a whole range of items. Online shopping makes it so easy to spend and to overspend from the comfort of our warm and dry homes. The thrill of a bargain is tempting for us all and we can all easily […]
January 2019 is just around the corner and yet with the distraction of Christmas it’s easy to forget about making a change until January 1st has come . . . and gone! Change is a process, not an event and like all processes needs a degree of planning. Di Clemente & Prochaska (1998) identified 5 […]
The age of technology with smart phones etc has speeded up much of our day to day lives; we can now communicate with immediacy thanks to messaging and emails, we can shop without cash and can pay for our shopping with contactless cards. Life has never been faster and yet this increased pace of life […]
We all talk to ourselves. Often the talk is silent and internal. Often our self talk is made from the same thoughts that we had yesterday and that we will have tomorrow. Often we don’t even notice our self talk but we ignore it at our peril because the thoughts in our self-talk create feelings […]
The days are beginning to shorten and soon we’ll be turning the clocks back. In primitive times we would retreat to our caves to escape the harsh winter storms and shortened days which meant we had less time to hunt. In many respects we do the same even in the modern world with the cosy […]